Stop letting men get away with being assholes
You’re ruining them for the rest of us.
If he doesn’t want to take you to dinner? There’s a reason. Demand more.
If he suddenly needs space and wants to still see you but he doesn’t want you to text or call him as often? There’s a reason. Demand more.
If he doesn’t want you to post pictures with him? There’s a reason. Demand more.
As a generation we have settled for the casual hook up. And that’s fine if that’s what it is. Hook ups don’t involve dates, or pet names, or even daytime hours. But the casual “exclusive” hook up? Give me a break. I want to keep a toothbrush at your place but I hide the one you keep at my place in a drawer. I want you to be with only me and I get jealous when you even mention another man but my phone “dies” every time I go out with my boys. I want to keep things quiet because we work together but I told the 20 year old secretary the same thing. I don’t want to hurt her feelings so I told her I still loved her and I just needed time to think. I don’t want to tell my friends about you because we’re not boyfriend and girlfriend yet but I promise I’m only with you. A lot of people are jealous of our relationship so if girls say bad things about me they’re just trying to steal me away so delete any messages you get from another girl about me. Because that sounds totally un-shady.
Ladies- we’re not stupid. We’ve just learned to pretend we are in order to survive. And there’s no reason for that. We’re teaching men that it’s acceptable to be lame. That even if you treat us like shit at the end of the day one of us will probably crawl in your bed. And the worst is those of us who are demanding more, they call us crazy. You label us “over emotional” and “fragile”. We get upset that you’re texting at 2am? How ridiculous of us! How do we not understand that your boss frequently texts you in the middle of the night?! We don’t believe you when you explain that you didn’t ask her to send you those naked pictures?! We’re being much too sensitive clearly! You can’t help it that you’re so hot women can’t help but fling themselves at you. How lucky of us that you chose us! We should be so thankful!
And it’s heartbreaking the women that settle for this. The ones who settle for relationships with people like this and the ones who settle for being the girl who sends the naked pictures and never gets taken on a real date. As women in the dating world we need to start demanding more. Stop dating boys who obviously haven’t grown up yet, stop climbing in their beds, stop texting them naked pictures on command. Stop doing every little thing they say and molding ourselves to exactly what they want out of fear of losing them. Lord knows they don’t do that for us. If he doesn’t like you how you are, you don’t want him because it’s going to get really hard to keep up your charade of “the cool girl” after a couple months. It might even make you go crazy and then you’d just be proving him right. Ugh.
'12 shoes for 12 lovers' by sebastian errazuriz reflects on the recollection of the artist's personal relationships with former lovers, each of whom became the influence for a series of shoe sculptures.
Dr. Masaru Emoto, a researcher and alternative healer from Japan has given the world a good deal of evidence of theRead More…
Elizabeth Gilbert, in her book Eat Pray Love, recalls a Sufi poem that, as she writes, says “God long ago drew a circle in the sand exactly around the spot where you are standing right now.”
The poem she is quoting is by Hafiz, and is copied below:
The place where you are right now
God circled on a map for you.
Wherever your eyes and arms and heart can move
against the earth and sky,
the Beloved has bowed there.
Our Beloved has bowed there knowing
you were coming.
I could tell you a priceless secret about
your real worth dear pilgrim.
But any unkindness to yourself,
any confusion about others,
will keep one
from accepting the grace, the love!